You know, we all want to be loved. And I think, deep down, we all want to know how to love someone in a way that is deeply cherished by that person. So many times we do that by taking them out to fancy dinners, buying them expensive gifts, saying all those things we know we're supposed to say... but then it happens... the food isn't very good at that restaurant or the waiter spills a drink on your date. You lean in for a kiss after dessert and they have food in their teeth. That gift you bought? They have the exact same thing sitting at home already... or they think it's just plain ugly. And you think, well this date went horribly... it must not be love. Or you try to say something romantic, and it sounds like you're quoting a movie... oh wait, you probably are! Let's hope they didn't notice. And all the while they're wondering... why are they saying those things? Do they really love me or are they just saying that to get what they want???
We all want something more genuine than that. Not everyone will admit it. And many are probably happy enough with fancy dinners and expensive gifts, at least for now. But I honestly believe that everyone wants a real, deep connection and love. And I'll tell you how you know you have it:
When, after a nice (but not over the top) dinner out to celebrate your wedding anniversary (or any other special occasion), you can finish off the night by going to Home Depot and buying a porch light - And be just as happy doing that as you would be sharing dessert at a four star restaurant!
Let's be honest here - you can find yourself "in love" with just about anyone who takes you out to nice dinners and buys you expensive gifts. But you know you're really with someone who's right for you when you are just as happy going to Trivia Night at the local Bar & Grille, picking out light fixtures at a home improvement store, or trying to chase your cat back indoors.
It's when you're happy doing the simple every day things. And not just happy doing that stuff most of the time... but happy doing it anytime, even on your anniversary.
Congrats Gretchen and Justin, on finding that extraordinary love, that to many seems so simple and mundane, but we know is the most extravagant love two people can share. Happy Anniversary!
That's my life!
Aww I absolutely LOVED your post - You so just made my day!...Thank you so much for the kind words. We often forget that it's the small things in life that make us happy and you just reminded everyone what's truly important in life! :-) ...Thanks for being such a great friend.
ReplyDeleteI loved this post Sarah! It's so true!! I feel like so many people out there try to buy someone's love and in doing just that, it's honestly not going to last, there has to be more to it! I know someone close to me in a relationship where it seems their significant other is constantly trying to buy their love, and I wish they would see that things aren't perfect between them...
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